concrete tender_square "i mean, things seem to be improving on their own," she shrugged. "well, that's good," her friend offered. "i guess so? i sort of feel like i don't have a right to complain anymore, that i should feel better." "should?" her friend emphasized the word skeptically. she laughed. "there's that word, the problematic 'should.'" her friend laughed. they sipped their coffees. "i know what you mean though. i was having the same issue with my ex, and it's like, the things that were aggravating me were concrete," she explained. "but when he started addressing them on his own accord, the dissatisfaction i had still existed. you need to figure out what’s bothering you in the abstract." 220410 ... tender_square her mother suggested that the concrete changes he'd been making were the result of her daughter's urging and not necessarily coming about organically, that he was addressing those issues to keep his wife happy. that maybe her daughter's abstract dissatisfaction was related her husband changing for the "wrong reason," which was "to try and keep her (external) vs 'i don't truly want to be this way' (internal)." 220418 what's it to you? who go blather from