bargaining tender_square she asks her husband to give her "tickles," which is getting her back rubbed softly, the way we used to do at girlish slumber parties before falling asleep. "he has to do it under the shirt, or it doesn't count," she said. "sometimes he tries to reach in front," and she showed the way she she braced her arms tight against her frame, not allowing her husband to touch the softest parts of her. they never have sex, though he tries to initiate. she says that their marriage is so much more than that. "how do you think i got my new stuffed animals in vegas?" she asked. "he wanted a handjob and i said 'what will you give me for it?'" 230730 what's it to you? who go blather from