firestarter tender_square “when i was in my training, there was a practitioner that said that as therapists we are both arsonist and firefighters. meaning, we are the ones say the things that can cause collapse but we’re also the ones on the scene trying to control the blaze. and the way i hear what you’re trying to do for your husband in the process of separating makes me think ‘oh, honey, you are trying to control a fire that you began.’ ” 221025 what's it to you? who go blather from