discounting tender_square "when you know you want to leave, how is that not a reflection upon the person that you're with?" she asked. "how could they not interpret that choice as being a rejection of who they are?" "it absolutely can be a choice that is more about you," her therapist offered. "that what the relationship has become is no longer working for what you need." she’d believed the "it's-not-you-it's-me" argument was a cop-out, a way of extricating herself while limiting the hurt it caused to someone she loved. yet here she was, prioritizing his necessities ahead of her own, as though her own heart was not a valuable enough ally to attend to. 211231 what's it to you? who go blather from