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xorf I've had some friends and lovers who were very kind to leave me when I was stuck with them. As a result I've suspected that I don't have the good sense to know when I should do the leaving.
Though I've been in a relationship for a good 6 years now, and everything's on the up and up, I still find myself wondering every time there's a challenge. To my credit, I've learned not to say it out loud unless I really suspect I might mean it.
I found myself sort of longing for a commitment from my primary partner recently, until it hit me that I was actually longing for a commitment from myself.
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me "I've had some friends and lovers who were very kind to leave me when I was stuck with them"... that's the best phrase i've heard in a while! I always believed that not all people were meant to be in relationships... and I've also been in one for 6 years, but I've spent the majority of it trying to figure out how to end it but never had the courage to do so out of guilt mostly. Even though I always felt that she would also benefit from it I just couldn't (but tried on a few occasions, but she wouldn't let me end it without a fight!) And so 6 years later we're in the same routine... and the sex is great, but I'm afraid there will never be anything else and if I was really only after sex I don't really need a commited relationship for that. My answer is always to just GO. You only live once and shouldn't spend it with someone who doesn't make you happy... and if its your fault then you need time alone to become the person you need to be. I personally haven't had the experience of being with someone while growing as an individual at the same time... If I had then THAT would be a succesfull relationship. 120810
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unhinged i tend to hide my true self when i'm in a relationship, even if it's just being quiet when i should speak up. it seems like the people i feel comfortable enough with to be myself only want friendship.

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sometimes i get sick of being the friend *sigh*
sometimes i get sick of being
sometimes i get sick of being your ideal
sometimes i get sick of being alone
sometimes i get sick of being broken_hearted
*sigh*


but i tend to make the absolute worse choices about relationships when i'm so alone even my tears are numb. i should know by now that only leads to the cut_and_run
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