how_do_you_collect_loans_from_friends Jenna I love him with all my heart but I have no money and somehow he's still getting it from me. How do you ask someone nicely to please pay you back *today*? Not eventually, not in the form of favors, but in cash, today? ? 020213 ... cube It's true that discussions of money make people uncomfortable. This is the same problem in business when i have to press a client for payment. What i have learned and can recommend is only 'persistence'. It seems to be the only thing that works. We pay people who continuously pester us - if only to shut them up. In your case, it'll have the added bonus of driving this guy out of your life and onto greener (and less squeaky) pastures. Friends like this you'll learn to live without. Tell him that you need the money for something important that has just come up. Fabricate a little white lie if necessary and tell him honestly that you cannot loan him anymore money because he never pays it back. You're not doing the guy any favors by keeping him dependent on others for his daily bread. In the end, there probably isn't any easy way. Hanging on to your money requires a little strength and bitchiness, but don't worry, you're in good company :-) ³ 020213 ... phil you don't need money for anything 020214 ... princess five dollars at a time. 020611 ... june but i did write some good stuff and made him alot of money, no matter how pathetic and crippled as i seem or am i need the money i want the money i need an operation that will help me survive this tumor i have attacking my brain move him onto the greener playground he's nothing but trouble to me 040125 what's it to you? who go blather from