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whitechocolatewalrus for some reason i can't stop wondering if any blatherskites have facebook 050511
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megan i have it 050512
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Piso Mojado nothing like finding out your oldest bestest friend is friends with your ex. yup. oh joyous day. 050515
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unhinged they have this thing in the music school here at uwm and it scares me 050515
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sweetheart of the song tra bong The creator of the Facebook was in my class in high school, where we had an excellent physical Facebook and the amazing Facebook game.

He got to Harvard and decided there needed to be a virtual one too. But you can't play the game.
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a thimble in time I'm curious 050517
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nocturnal why oh why do I knowingly involve myself in these things? like I need another online distraction. freshman year undergrad I wasted hours here. I hope facebook doesn't turn into another blather debacle.

no offense. I enjoyed myself and all, still do from time to time, but I get addicted and everything else goes to shit. oy.
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falling_alone i have it too. 051010
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anne-girl hehe
I just found a skite on facebook, so I came here to blathe it

(accidental abuse of the "find your friends" function)

has facebook
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pete also has facebook 061225
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anne-girl knows :) 070107
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pete *pete tries to think of some kind of suitable reply and instead searches face book for anne-girl*

i think i've found you too
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no reason it's become way too addictive 070107
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klairchen also has facebook,

contact me for details...
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Lemon_Soda facebook? 070522
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jane i'm friends with megan on facebook 070522
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walrie ive had it so long it no longer is addictive to me. strange. or maybe its just that i don't have time to be addicted. yeah probably that. 070523
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no reason it's full of silliness 070523
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number 6 walrie: you must not have an internet life. what the hell is wrong with you?
:/
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jane oh you pathetic bean. "internet life?"

go out & get a real one, & dont make fun of people who already have one.
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no reason there is now scrabble on facebook. super dangerous.

all of my time shall now be occupied.
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tessa i'm too scared to join the blather group on facebook.

terrified
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jane come on in, the water's fine. 070803
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falling_alone even though i want to make this a quote, i'll only leave it here.
"i know, i saw it when i was sucking the inside of your thigh..."
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mcdougall i joined it

does too
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silentbob oh we should be friends on it 070827
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braininpain is also braininpain in facebook, brain in pain 070912
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olive i made a face book. but it just pissed me off so i deleted it within two weeks. 070919
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pSyche I keep on looking at the blather group on facebook, and thinking how simple it would be to spill my name and never blathe again.
tempting.
and the tempting bit scares me.
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sameolme Well, I did it, but I don't have time for this kind of thing. 071114
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poet muuuch better than myspace 071114
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auburn also has facebook. 071115
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jane i still prefer myspace. facebook has an overwhelming amount of applications that are constantly shoved down your throat. 071116
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u24 I don't install any of the apps 071116
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u24 and it depresses me that it so quickly turns into a blatantly commercial venture; I now get shown adverts when I log in. grr. 071116
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no reason i don't know why but it's so addictive
maybe because everyone has it

some of the apps are cool, though most are annoying. i like the magnetic poetry one.
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no reason everyone should join and play scrabulous with me. i'm addicted to scrabulous. i think it might be a side effect of being unemployed. scrabscrabscrabulous! 080213
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Little Lost Riding Hood I just joined it - but I cant work out who is who!! 080214
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Doar deleted mine about two weeks ago...or should I say, put it on a permanent hiatus.

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LLRH How annoying - I would have liked to see you Doar! 080215
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the Hermit throws a sheep at facebook 080215
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ever dumbening my 70 year old aunt just sent me an invite to view her facebook page. come on now, this shit has truly jumped the shark. she is quite the hip aunt, but seriously folks. 080410
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pobodys nerfect I joined up a few nights ago, because most of my family are over there instead of Myspace (which on one hand, gives me great relief because i have my privacy with my friends and i don't have to feel guilty about excluding family if they were there),but on the other hand, it's a whole new thing to learn and there really *are* a lot of applications and ghey things like "growing gifts" that i'm going to have to look like a reclusive BITCH for turning down, but i don't care. =P

I just don't like the idea of all these different places being able to access information i've made private. They just REALLY seem to want you to share your info--last name, birthday, etc.
It's ghey. And creepy. So creepy, that i'm glad i used a fake last name.... ;0)
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minnesota_chris you can say all sorts of bad things about Facebook, but they let you play Scrabble over there, and that makes up for the rest.

We should have a blather-wide Scrabble bee.
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no reason i don't think refusing applications makes you a reclusive bitch. i refuse them all the time. or maybe that means i am a reclusive bitch, but so far i haven't lost any friends over it. i don't think. 080411
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minnesota_chris but you don't go outside anyways, so screw them, all those "outside people" walking around... outside 080412
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Doar Well LLRH, you can view my myspace page. It's not really all that great because I don't spend enough time customizing like others their.

I'm friends with Birdmad if that helps.

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past it's slowly taking the place of email. while some of my friends still send out nice developed emails, most use the facebook message system. 080415
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stork daddy in the future people will propose by simply changing their status on facebook. 080415
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u24 it probably already has happened, stork daddy 080606
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u24 and no reason: i refuse all applications. And I think my facebook page is much prettier for it. 080606
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oren I've been on facebook for about a year now. I still like it. And, I love Scrabulous and Othello and PuzzleBee.

I have a few apps besides those, but I don't use them much. Most apps annoy me.
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Ouroboros timesuck 080621
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anne-girl man, it's super-weird to see people and real names and stuff in the blather facebook group. I'm way too much of a scaredy-cat to actually join, but... awesome 080804
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no reason i've been having a problem with the chat... i don't use it too much, so i have it set to stay offline until i turn it on. however, in the past couple of days it has been signing me on automatically, and even if i turn it off, it'll turn on again when i go to a different facebook page.
it's glitchy and frustrating. does anyone else have this problem? i couldn't seem to find it listed in the help section.
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vaca echada resist facebook 081223
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rhin i still can't believe i'm on facebook. initially it began with those stupid games to which i'm trying to wean myself from. it's all of those people tracking me down, finding me, adding me. it's like the anti-me, and i have unknowingly embraced it. what the fuck. i can't say what i want to there. it's wrong. so wrong. 100324
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does it ease the pain? omg
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2268328187&ref=search&sid=592504609.708877358..1

doesn't this defeat the first rule of blather??? as well as the second rule of blather???

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twenty-three oooh. I have joined the group. 100327
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borg_o_phobe i do not have it
i do not want it
please do not demand that i care about your involvement with it
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nandita OMG! There's much too much light at the group. 100707
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Lemon_Soda Adam D. Ruggieri.

Send me an invite and put "blatherskite" in the message.
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re_alisma sorry, my highschool friends, you're stuck with an artsy self-portrait, and that's the only item of interest, it seems. a self-fulfilling prophecy in a rigid timelined environment, frenzied interaction for interaction's sake, and what, again, is feeling? oh, poor facebook, you centralized the chapters of my life and won yourself an enemy.

(i guess it proves i'm selfish, and that i only enjoy people if they enjoy me. it's just one more lesson i'd hoped i didn't need, to be completely negative about it.)
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re_alisma ok, i guess i worked this morning at overcoming my negativity, gave it the old college try, and posted an update. it might end up okay, or i might end up sulking about it, but it's been done, and it must have been a little high priority for me to be processing it all morning.... had to get within the 420 character limit!! 100823
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n o m me 100823
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unhinged modern false idol



i still don't have one
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Snook I have an account, will you be my friend? 100912
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endless desire that way you can poke me when I don't come around ....
facebook.com/mytwohands
be sure to say your blathe name or I'll think you're a creeper.
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snook http://www.facebook.com/?ref=logo#!/GirlShapedMonster 100919
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re_alisma i've managed to stay away for awhile, as it is full of unintegratable family members and classmates from my not-for-winners high school. it's the few college people that i'm missing out on, but then again, i believe i'll -look forward- to seeing them in some_other_life, which a irretrievable loss of bearings has bound me to lead, eventually. and if i don't ever see them again, then i hope they shall be fondly remembered. so, then, finding very little use for it. funny how the people met in life fall into categories, several boring categories. i think it should be more highly respectable, i guess. golly gee whiz, i am one for hypocritically upholding a standard or two. for i too seem to be boring to others, and not deserving, so why stay? it's not like i had the social wherewithall to participate much. so maybe it's true that i was quite undeserving.

the key is not to hold the lot of them to some facebook failure in the big book of relatedness karma, or whatever. because that would just be the stupidest. and i truly don't want to be placed in with a remedial social situation again and again and again. so, nothing personal, facebook. it's just not working. better to have seemed to have fallen off the face of the planet....
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snook Is about to delete account. How wonderfully freeing. 100926
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nit i did that but you will find people asking why you did so, it's like this new social norm or something. not being part of facebook is going to be like not having a mobile one day, it's totally trapping. 100927
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rhin i also discovered that blather is on facebook. wtf wtf. 110130
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Soma the blather illusion is shattered. 110131
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no reason i added someone and then got a notification that they added me, but then when i clicked on them we weren't friends. i guess i got added and then immediately deleted? i'm not sure what the reasoning behind that is. i don't think my profile is THAT offensive... 110223
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no reason i can't decide whether adding people you've known since you were four years old (from elementary school all the way through to the end of high school) but haven't talked to in ten years (and never hung out with them enough to know all that well, yet feel they'd be interesting people now and want to see what they're up do) is:

a)creepy and stalkerish
b)weird
c)cool/a nice surprise
d)neutral/who cares?
e)none of the above
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sigh i mean:
"(and never hung out with them enough to know all THEM that well)"

and up do = up to
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ok i think too much f)all of the above
g)a combination of the above
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birdmad with one exception, i rarely communicate with my best friends from high-school anymore even though we all signed up to coordinate for our 20 year reunion, i now talk more regularly to classmates who i didn't know all that well back then

go figure
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hearts on fire I've never joined.
Couldn't care less about joining either.
However, I was looking at a small domestic airline for a country I will be visiting soon (in Latin America) and while they don't have any contact info on their page (yes, I know) - they've put all their info in facebook!

FML.
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rhin i admit that i have grown fond of FB if only because it helps me keep in touch with more people, and because when i am in a mood and want to bring down the ship there are more souls aboard. 111016
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no reason i met a girl who said, verbatim,

"I have this thing, you MUST have a facebook. Just met the hottest guy ever, we made small talk on Michigan Avenue. He asked when/how he could talk to me again. I asked if he had facebook and he said No.
FML."

and that was the end of their exchange.

this really happened. and there are further comments on the subect (this was on facebook).
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thy SMH 120718
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no reason one of her fears was that people without facebook are serial killers.

(this thread literally made me facepalm. or more accurately, palmface.)
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oren Like 120718
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in a silent way deactivate
reactivate
deactivate
too much noise
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rhin yes. still. i find that i have to control myself there...watch what i say. i can be very outspoken. facebook is so full of bullshit and people spouting bullshit. i am probably one of them, but what are you gonna do...

if it counts, FB isn't even comparable to Blather. never will.
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no reason i feel like social media is making my writing (there and elsewhere) more impersonal. 130906
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unhinged after all these years, i've still never had one and i hope i never do... 130906
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epitome of incomprehensibility Me neither. But I have a LinkedIn account. Go figure. I'm not a serial killer, but I'm not particularly businesslike either. 130906
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xlead repository for non-angst posts 130907
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silentbob because_the_internet 140122
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flowerock I looked for blather on facebook... I was happy to not find it there. 140128
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jane we're there, darlin. it's just a secret... ;) 140628
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flowerock i wanti discover the secret! out of curiosity I think. I almost feelike they re better separated... blather being superior to facebook in my opinion. but.. lemme in! 140628
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nr can be dangerous when you have access to pictures and information about your crush's exes. i've always liked learning new things about people, but sometimes it's better off not to know. let's keep telling ourselves that, shall we? 141003
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nr *it's better. no off. off with you, off.

but... we're better off.
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flowerock Only if you let the images and info threaten your self security. When I came to blather I discovered many words from and between my love and his exes and friends here. I was a little silly and insecure or jealous feeling at first, but then realized that I too have exes and life goes on. I am happy that he was loved and able to love too. How sad and lonely if neither of us had been loved or loved in return before "us"? I am thankful to his and my past for the present we now share. It helps that he is genuinely sincere and honest and loving and nit into bulls hit or drama. I have no real worries, only insecurities... like I'm almost positive these other girls could outrun me right now and are probably really pretty... but I am too! Most people are... and I am getting strong and further in all things I do. Anyway... if any of these "exes" are still around, no negative feelings from me at all and thankyou for loving someone so deserving of being loved.
Is that too much or too weird? I'm kind of an awkward emotional person. Sorry if it's out of place.
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nr nope, not out of place at all (that's probably hard to achieve here!). it's definitely a healthy way to look at things.

probably different, too, if you're already in a committed relationship with the person. but it's true that everyone has a past. it just makes me curious when i have access to these people, i start to wonder what has attracted him to these people and whether it's gone and whether i have it.

but i suppose the reality is that people meet people, and stuff happens with people or it doesn't, and you can't really plan how people will feel or dwell on how they have felt.

ahh social media... feeding overactive imaginations since its conception.
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flowerock Indeed. Dangerous in that you don't want to find yourself trying to "be" those past people to attract them maybe. Remember that the are in the past, not unimportant, but still past tense in a sense, probably for a reason or two. Social media is strange ... especially blather since you can't erase or take back or change words you've shared... you could change your "name" and email and be someone else here but your old self will always be here. 141005
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in a silent way i've finally learned to ignore the many things i don't like about it and accept that it can be useful as a way of getting and staying in touch with people who are interested in actual communication. it's had a lot to do with recent enjoyable creative connections being possible and being made and maintained. it's been a convenient initial meeting-without-meeting place. so, i'm a little bit sorry for all the times i swore at and about you, facebook, even though i'm sure i'll get fed up and deactivate you again someday. i'm still determined to never "like" anything anyone says. i still don't feel like saying much of anything that has meaning to me there. i still think the signal_to_noise_ratio is all out of whack. but i know what to use the platform for now. that's something. 141218
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unhinged is still abstaining 141218
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in a silent way you're smart to. it's way too easy to waste way too much time doing nothing on the book of faces. 141218
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tail-devouring snake lots of ridiculousness in the interface- but i love being able to connect with and feel connected to so many people i care about. also super helpful distraction when body discomfort is high. 141219
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jane at some point between last night and this afternoon, everything disappeared. i can log on from other accounts (pets), thankfully, but my profile is gone, as well as every comment i've ever made and pictures of me.

upon attempting to log in i got a blank screen with some sort of "checkpoint" in the url. if i attempted to go to the fb homepage, it would ask me to log in. i tried to change my password but the same thing happened.

now i have to wait 24 hours before logging back on, and even now i'm not sure if this password will work. something like 10 years lost, again.

yesterday in yoga, the theme was possessiveness and letting_go. i thought it apropos considering the recent dealings with jealousy, but i'd never think these two phrases would be even more applicable:

"this is how it is now."
"that's interesting."

did you know you can download your entire facebook profile? for what purpose, i have no clue. i know that i did it once before. i don't even know where i stowed it.

it's bizarre how one thing can encapsulate your entire life.

this is how it is now. that's interesting.
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flowerock Apparently facebook is requiring people to prove their identity now. It is also kind of an empty void of wasted time... I am very slowly weenie off of the facebook and saving images and words from it so that I can just delete it and be done. I'll keep in touch th e old fashioned way with email and phone calls and maybe even snail_mail! I like Facebook but kostly I'm just kind of used to it now...and it's kind of just an ego trip on a screen 150318
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srealismas Birthday. They iz just sharing. Unlike the Bible in every way, which is ironic, but I always find churchgoers to generally be more two-sided than non-churchgoers. So it goes with the territory. I have muchas problemas with managing a personal image to a tailored audience. That part isn't even in high school yet. Although I define high school as when you quit giving a shit and bear down chicago bears on doing what you need to do, with no hope for fun or socializing. And I got sick and burnt out early. Facebook (i.e. "My Past") was uninterested in the brand of fairytale Brahma had in store for me--- there are no surprises or plot twists at facebook, and not everybody finds drama a necessity. To each their own, right. Mother's inflamed sense of delayed destiny. A pelican at work on its breast. There's something to that. 160204
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nr it's getting to the point where it's unnerving if your comments aren't responded to or 'liked' or reacted to or whatever. it reminds me of an article i read about people coming across as angry when they responded to a text with a period, i.e.:

"is it okay if we meet an hour later?"
"yes. that's fine."

why are they so formal? are they just being polite? are they mad that i'm inconveniencing them?

and yeah. back to the point. it's the same with social media. if someone doesn't respond in any way to what you comment on, it makes you wonder if you said something wrong or if the person's mad or whatever whatever.

the ridiculousness and paranoia of it all is hitting me so much that i'm thinking it may be a good idea to take a break. i wonder if that would last.
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flowerock. I had to decide not to argue on the internet anymore. It's just better not to. I like to complain about things, be excited about things, and post pictures of my dog on facebook. It's pretty exciting... not really. But it sure wastes time! 160322
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crediblehulk I see people post creepy, ignorant, or otherwise stupid shit on facebook all the time. Most of them are people I don't know, as I have done a fairly decent job of keeping such blatant vitriol separate from my personal relationships. Sometimes I think about joining in just for the fun of it, but then I remember the times I said creepy, ignorant, or otherwise stupid shit without even realizing it.

As a result, I have made it a personal rule to not post on public forums anything that might be construed as overly offensive or controversial to people whose reputations I rely on. Basically, anything I might say to my close friends or family.

The only times I argue on the internet are when I'm using a pseudonym, and those times are few and far between these days. The stuff I post on here is either offensive or controversial to somebody, somewhere.

Arguing with people sucks in general. If you do it in person, however, you get more outwardly emotional, you have less time to get your point across, you repeat yourself, and neither party's mind changes very much. This is a slightly different dynamic than when you're writing messages back and forth, in which case you have all the time in the world to get your point across, and you might repeat yourself less.

The bottom line is that anything people do or say is subject to scrutiny. Pick your battles, and pick the right audience for them.
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flowerock. Hmmm... not_sure 161215
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