emotionless_sex elimeny Jesus. Does anyone remember when sex suddenly became meaningless? Just an interesting way to burn calories, or pass the time? when did it cease to be special? when did it stop being about love? its more motivated by boredom now than anything. i used to want to stay a virgin until i was married. then one day i woke up, and had sex with someone and didnt even think about it the next day. what happened? when did i become so jaded? God, i want that feeling back. 030206 ... cube Sex was a thing long before emotion was a thing. The question is, when was sex tied up with emotion? ³ 030206 ... screwing for virginity well elimeny, i believe it is a simple matter of economics. when the supply of anything goes up, the value goes down. and becuase our culture is flooded with sex on tv, movies, internet, and everywere else then the value of said act goes down, and thus you spend less (or even no) emotion in that department. im sorry if that wasnt too clear, but i just figured out that economics apples to more than money, so i still have rough edges to smooth over on the anologies. 030206 ... billy c cody She makes Love Without a Smile Hot Damn It drives Me Wild I got a Woman Mean as She can Be Sometimes I think She's almost Mean as Me 030207 ... Insat Can you have emotionless sex? Not all emotions are positive ones, they are negative ones also. 030207 ... Syrope can be fun for a change, but not when it becomes the norm 030207 ... Norm I see a infant playing with a balloon. I want that back. Ignorance is bliss. 030207 ... Alden I've always had the opposite problem. Even though I'm a guy and therefore sterotypically shouldn't be overly emotional regarding sex, I totally am. The hardest part of being me is that I fall in love with everyone I have sex with, and it causes me no end of harm. I wish I could be with someone without feeling nothing, or at least without feeling love, but so far I haven't had much success. For now, I've found solace in celibacy. 030207 ... unhinged meaningless_sex 030207 ... elimeny ::bang bang gasp:: ... yeah, so, nice sleeping with you. now get the hell out. 030208 ... Piso Mojado empty 030216 ... splinken theraputic. 030407 ... delial a trainwreck in the dark 030409 ... Eladamaros wait, is this with other people or with one's hands? 030828 ... yeah...fuck it could be either. fucking not for the sake of any genuine, shared emotional intimacy but just to satisfy an urge junk_food_sex not fucking for love, just fucking to fuck fucking for leverage fucking someone just so you can tell yourself you fucked them fucking someone so you can tell others you fucked them fucking someone to hurt yourself fucking someone to hurt someone else fucking someone for no other reason than because it beats another night alone fucking just for the fuck of it 030828 ... Strideo sexless_emotion ... 030828 ... misstree unless it's done with extreme apathy, there's always an emotion involved... boredom, sometimes, or vengance, lust, rage, affection, friendship, sadness, bitterness, defeat--all of these are emotions, love doesn't own the rights to my brain; hell, the bouncers have got to be in a good mood just to let it in the bar. the most common emotion, i'd guess, would be enjoyment, though simply joy is even better. 030829 ... crimson "He said it doesn't mean anything. That is was just a fuck. But if it was 'just a fuck,' if it was so meaningless, then why did he do it in the first place?" 030829 ... unhinged actions don't necessarily have to 'mean' anything in a deep sense for people to take part in them. i can't get off from emotionless, meaningless sex. and all those times i tortured myself with it even when i have emotionful meaningful sex sometimes it doesn't work; at all. and that made him feel inferior. so i hate the asshole that ruined it all for me even more than i ever have. 030830 ... nomatter for me it started out meaningless, than I realized that it could and should be better, if only i could find someone who i actually cared about. 030920 ... girl_jane It hasn't been for me...I'm hoping it hasn't been for you. 040224 ... ph i have never had sex with anyone i am twenty years old and already i am bored of the endless meaningless casual sex that I have in my mind 040301 ... her royal highness the quirk i've tried it, multiple times. it requires a level of detachment that i don't possess. the sad thing is that i might be right back to it. i'm not sure if this new guy is in it just for sex or if there's something else there. i suppose i could just ask him, but where's the fun in that? 040301 ... freedom With a liar, so I wouldn't be alone, just to have sex, to feel wanted, not emotionless then is it.. wouldn't you always have emotions while having sex?? it may not be for the person you are with. but you have emotions... therefore cannot have emotionless sex.. bah confusion overtakes me.. I'm done 040321 ... floralieca I don't think that's possible... maybe if they sleep together just one or two times. But if they keep doing it, it's sure that one of the two will get attach while the other that doesn't feel anything will just get bored. So uhmm yes, emotionless sex would be possible for the one time occasion. 040321 ... time_warp attachment is not the only form of emotion. enjoyment is an emotion. among quite a few many others. 040322 ... Shaquille ONeal ...comes in decieving packages. 040322 ... Shaquille ONeal or "deceiving," if you know how to spell. 040322 ... magicforest empty takes piso mojado in hand 040322 ... falling_alone i should probably end it. but I don't understand how it can satisfy me to the brink where I threw away the most positive aspect of my life. i asked him what he thought of me last night, "well....you're my friend" i don't really believe that but should it matter? i don't love him. i feel pleasure, hurt, extasy, want, misery never regret there must be a lesson here somewhere 110516 ... f_a Esctasy, I also feel nauseous. 110516 ... f_a Ecstasy. Last time. I_haven't_been_eating 110516 ... unhinged (the last guy i slept with, we were like this. i wouldn't say it was exactly emotionless, but i definitely didin't have any head_over_heels kind of romantic lovey dovey feelings towards him. we just had really good orgasms together. and cyclically, i would feel him developing stronger feelings for me, and cyclically, i would do something to push him away. (maybe my relationship with him was a response to what i wasn't getting from the person i was in_love with; went back and forth between both of them for over a year) this past time i was with good sex boy, we were upfront about the fact that we weren't dating or in any sort of romantic relationship. that we weren't committed to each_other or dating or any other trite label. but when shit hit the fan, he wanted me to be committed to him even after he had done some inexcusable shit to me while angry. he said it was for health reasons because of his sti over the summer, which i could rationally understand, but i think it had to do with more than that. sex for sex's sake always ends up with people hurt in the end.) 110516 ... no reason if i'd wanted this, i could've gone home with the stripper. 110516 ... falling_alone he wouldn't kiss me today I should've expected this I should've known Prepared but I ignored it all this is what I wanted....right? 110529 ... Risen Is less fun than I'd expect. I turned it down, and went for the nearness instead. I'd rather wait for the real thing. This is such a monumental breakthrough. And that was a decision made by drunk me. I really have changed. But there is a stillness to lying next to someone in the warm, just holding them, tracing their collarbones and hip bones and the smooth flatness of a stomach, the gasping curve of their lower back. Sleeping entwined. That nearness is better than sex. It's what I've been missing, and I think it led me to a real breakthrough. 160201 ... unhinged i was watching an interesting ted talk today about the way our brains work when we are in love. i have been pretty interested in neuroscience lately because understanding how the brain works is important to me personally and professionally. this female scientist said something that caught my ear 'casual sex isn't really that casual. orgasms trigger the release of dopamine in the brain which activates our reward systems and makes us seek more orgasms and nearness to others.' i.e. sex reinforces the desire to be close to other human beings. it is the way our brains are wired. so even when we have an 'understanding' with someone we are having a physical relationship with that it is just 'casual' or we are 'just friends getting to know each other' that is not the story that is played out in our brains chemically. and it is not just women whose brains do this. which would explain why men i have had 'casual' relationships with get so pissed when i'm the one that ends things. brain chemicals are a powerful force over human behavior. it's time people stopped ignoring the chemical reactions in their brains and stopped acting like sex doesn't mean anything. *sigh* (not really directed at you necessarily risen; just an interesting blather synchronicity) 160201 what's it to you? who go blather from